Faye Odesser has seen it all. In her nine years working across NYC, she's been a sexuality educator, a social media manager for a mental health nonprofit, a magazine contributor, a bra slinger, a model, a lazy DJ, a TV host, a repro rights activist, a teenage girl, a record-breaking recipient of dress code violations, a good lover, a bad lover, and everything in between. Now, she's an advice columnist, and a role model in training. Emphasis on "in training": at 23, she's still figuring everything out.

Once a month she'll be answering shado readers' questions on sexuality, love, style, and life in general. What do you do when your Tinder matches won't stop sexualizing you? How can you actually participate in kink with a new partner? How do you wear what you want without minding the stares?

Send in your questions and your new favourite agony aunt will help you out: honestly, without judgement, and as best as she can.